Soul Mate Walk Preparation and Reflection

This entry is being written after my walk has taken place, but in preparation for my search for my soul mate I needed to prepare my questions I would use to find him. During discussion about my project, the suggestion was made to base my questions around past failed relationships and deep reflection about what is important to me in a partner.

Some of the questions were easy to write down, especially the basics. Things like age, if they currently have a partner, if they like women, and basic habits were easy basic questions to include. Future plans were also rather easy to consider, such as family, marriage, and career. Cheating was one of the first heavy questions I wrote down. While I think cheating would be an issue for most, I find it especially important when I have experienced the feelings that come from being cheated on. This was right in line with the suggestions made for my questions.

I thought the suggestion about selecting questions based on past failed relationships to be a really important one, especially after just experiencing a rather ugly end to a potential relationship. I knew cheating was going to be part of my questions, but there were other qualities I thought were important to consider after this ending. Honesty, communication, and openness to being in a long-term relationship became more important than I previous thought.

After taking my walk and talking to people, I realized how much the answers affect the way I look at people. I knew cheating was an issue for me, but during an interview with a friend he admitted to cheating and I was not previously aware of this. I think this may have changed my view on him, even though I know he is a nice guy.

I also realized that some responses to my questions were able to outweigh others that I thought were important. I originally put a limit on the age of whom I would choose. However, after hearing particularly good answers from someone a little younger than I was looking for, I was able to overlook the age in favour of answers to the bigger questions. I realized that maybe these questions and their responses are so much more important than something like age.